We both enjoy multiple positions, but when I can’t directly look him in the eyes in some positions, I’m curious about whether he actually likes it or not! I decided to use the mirror to investigate and as it turns out, I loved the experience. We looked incredibly hot, and it helped me understand that … Read more
Welcome to Doing It, a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions. This month, they speak with experts and people living with vaginismus about the realities of living with this under-researched condition. The vagina is a remarkable organ. It connects the uterus to the outside of the body. … Read more
Welcome to Doing It, a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions. This month, they speak with experts and people who have sex in public about why it can be such a thrill. The words “having public sex” tend to spark visceral reactions: disgust, excitement, or maybe a … Read more
Before jumping into a polycule, Leanna Yau, a polyamory educator, recommends that previously-monogamous couples try polyamory that doesn’t involve cohabitation first. “If you both are open to dating other people, you could say that, at the moment, that your polycule is just yourself and your partner,” Yau says. You and your partner should be able … Read more
Welcome to Doing It, a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions. This month, they dive into why so many women get turned on by dirty talk. Throughout my 33 years of life, I’ve tried almost everything to get into the mood. Lube, foreplay, porn… they’re all great, … Read more
There is another type of dysphoria called post-coital dysphoria, which clinical psychologists categorize as a female functional disorder, where the person experiences negative emotions characterized by crying, sense of melancholy, anxiety, agitation, or aggression after sex. While it is mainly reported in women, there have been some rare cases of men experiencing it as well. … Read more
I often felt incomplete. I still feel that way at some level — though I’m trying to rid myself of this thought process — despite years of research and advocacy for sex positivity for all sexual orientations, the ace [or asexual, which is a label people use to describe themselves if they experience no sexual … Read more
Tina, a 33-year-old techie from San Francisco, Tina is currently experiencing artificial menopause, a byproduct of a complete double cystectomy as part of treatment for her stage 3/4 endometriosis. The changes she’s experienced around her sex life aren’t bad, but different. “I was always the higher sex drive partner and now I feel like my … Read more
