Bride-to-be sparks feud for banning sister’s ‘loud’ toddler from her wedding ceremony

A bride-to-be has sparked a feud after banning her sister’s “loud” and “distracting” toddler from her wedding ceremony.

The bride is getting married in a couple of weeks at a destination wedding — with only a few close guests invited.

“My sister is bringing her one-year-old toddler. The child is more than welcome — she’s part of the family and we want her there as part of the day,” she explained in a Reddit thread.

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“However, as she’s still very young (and very loud at times), I’ve asked that somebody takes her out during the ceremony if she’s being distracting, shouting and babbling loudly.

“I know that this will probably happen as she’s constantly chatting loudly and is never quiet.

“But it’s only for half an hour and she can be as loud as she likes for the rest of the day.

“I just want everybody to be able to focus on the ceremony and I don’t want the distraction.”

The bride said she knows she may sound selfish but she simply wants all eyes on her and the groom during the ceremony.

“We want everyone to be able to enjoy them and, to be honest, we want the guests’ attention focused on us,” she said.

But after telling her sister the plan to keep her daughter out of the ceremony for 30 minutes, things didn’t go down well.

“My sister has told me I’m being an a****** for ‘excluding’ my niece from the ceremony and therefore by default ‘excluding’ my brother-in-law who will be the one to take her out,” the bride said.

“She says that I’m asking him and the one-year-old to go all that way just for the evening meal as they will miss the ceremony and that the toddler will most likely miss that too as it will be after bedtime.

“I’ve told her that there’s a whole afternoon of relaxing things going on — photos, cake, a little walk outside and late lunch that they will be part of but apparently she’s still really annoyed with me.”

She says her sister is now furious with her because she should have made her wedding a “child-free event from the start”.

“My sister said they would’ve planned to leave her behind if it was a child-free event,” the bride said.

“(But) I would never ever have asked a new mum to go away for a weekend on a plane without her child, particularly as this was organised a while ago when the child was still very tiny and dependent.

“That to me would’ve made me more of an a******.”

Calling her bluff

The bride says her sister is now “threatening” to attend the wedding alone — leaving her partner and their daughter at home.

“We’ve called her bluff and said if that’s what she wants to do then we understand,” she said.

“To be honest, she’s p***ing us off so much that we’d be fine with all three of them not coming at this point.

“I don’t think that I’m asking anything unreasonable.

“All I want is a peaceful, relaxed ceremony where we can all focus on what’s going on without a toddler babbling away.

“Also, to be honest, even if this WAS an unreasonable ask, surely as it’s my wedding day then it’s up to me?

“Isn’t it the one day of my life when I can do literally anything I want?”

Normal etiquette

Her post has been met with more than 450 comments, most defending her decision.

“Based on the sister’s resulting tantrum, the bride knew full well that sister would not take the toddler out unless specifically asked,” one said.

“This is basic event etiquette, but it seems like sis cannot be relied on to follow basic etiquette – or even asked to do so without herself acting like a toddler.”

Another suggested: “Removing a disruptive baby from a formal event would be normal etiquette, but if you specifically had to ask in advance, I’ll guess she’s got a history of not doing so.

“Your wedding, your rules. You could have gone completely child-free, all you asked was for the common courtesy of taking her outside if she got noisy.”

One added: “I wouldn’t dream of letting my toddler scream during a wedding.

“I sit at the end of a row … and either me or my husband whisk him away the second his noise becomes distracting.”

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