A wife has sparked fury after discovering her husband was secretly paying off her diamond engagement ring using her funds from their joint bank account.
The 28-year-old woman was overjoyed when her then-fiancé proposed to her with an $8,000 two-carat lab diamond ring, which he put on a payment plan because he “didn’t have the funds available readily” at the time of purchase.
Just three months after getting engaged, the couple got married at a courthouse because they didn’t want a “fancy wedding”.
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But things too a strange turn when the newly married woman realised she had “unintentionally partially paid for two installments”, which now makes her a “part owner of the ring”.
“I found out after we married and merged our finances that he has been withdrawing funds from our joint account — we make roughly the same — to finance this ring,” the furious woman shared in a Reddit thread.
“I was just taken aback and honestly put off by the fact he is making me pay for a gift he gave to me.
“We have been having some arguments lately and he feels that the ring is a wedding expense and it’s only fair that I contribute towards it too, and that as a woman of this day I shouldn’t hesitate to be an equal partner.”
She took particular issue with her husband for making her pay her share on what was supposed to be a gift from him.
“You don’t make the recipient of a gift pay for the damn gift,” she said.
“An engagement ring is considered a gift in most modern societies even today and I don’t care if you disagree with that… We never discussed if he had any issues with that.
“Maybe if he was an adult enough, I would’ve had a discussion about how it makes him feel.”
The woman said if she had known her husband was going to make her pay for the ring, she wouldn’t have agreed to “buy it”.
“Mutual consent is essential when a couple is deciding to invest in an asset. Owning a house or a car jointly requires two ‘yeses’ and I wouldn’t certainly have said yes to jointly owning a ring he was supposed to give to me as a gift,” she explained.
“So I can retroactively decide now I never wanted to own it and have been demanding that my husband returns the ring to the store if paying for the ring hurts his pocket so much.”
She said her husband was always aware she wanted a “nice” ring as she knew she “deserved a quality piece symbolising our love”.
“My then-fiancé knew about the expectation I had of him and was upfront about things from the get go,” she explained.
“He could’ve discussed things with me and we could’ve seen if we were truly compatible like that. What I didn’t know was that he was plotting to ‘get even’ with me by taking out a payment plan and using our funds to finance it.”
When she confronted him. he “flared up” and “berated” her for being “sexist” towards him.
“I put my foot down not because I can’t afford it or I refuse to financially contribute or give my husband a nice gift, but my husband’s sheer stubbornness and tackiness about wanting me to pay is what p***es me off,” she ranted.
“I don’t mind splurging for him, but this whole situation has left a very bad taste in my mouth.
“He expects me to apologise to him because I called his actions tacky and decisions scammy and in bad faith.”
Now she’s demanding her husband return her engagement ring to the jewellery store because she refuses to pay for it.
Her post was met with almost 3,000 comments — with many furious on the wife’s behalf.
“I’d be livid if I found out I was diamond poor instead of house poor,” one said.
Another shared: “The difference here is that she laid out her ‘expectations of him’ for the ‘nice’ ring she wanted. Granted, he should have told her he couldn’t afford that and offered to buy her a ring he could afford or they could pay for it jointly”.
However, not everyone agreed, with one suggesting: “You’re married, there is no ‘my money’ and ‘his money’. Money he spends towards the debt for the ring is money that can’t be spent on other things for your lives together. You wanted an expensive ring, they aren’t free”.
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