Many would argue for the legal line: that if all parties are of consenting age and can fully and actively consent, then there’s no problem. But much like the equation, this line of thinking doesn’t consider the difference in power—in the actual ability to consent fully—between an 18-year-old and a 68-year-old. Legally, an age of … Read more
Shortly after I got married, I awoke one night with a start. While my husband snoozed quietly beside me, the full weight of my new identity as a “wife” suddenly dawned on me. I wasn’t just a friend or a girlfriend; even in the dead of night, I was responsible for the life I shared … Read more
There’s a great Liz Phair song about the joys of dating a younger, less-established man that has a line I can’t stop thinking about: “Your record collection don’t exist, you don’t even know who Liz Phair is.” That lyric played in my head especially loudly when I discovered that actor Natalie Portman and a young … Read more
TikTok content This content can also be viewed on the site it originates from. But it also got me thinking. Ignoring “blue eyes,” “trust fund,” and “6’5.” (Bit too tall in my opinion, but to each their own.) Ignoring the fact that explicitly seeking out a rich man has a real the-bitchiest-Jane-Austen-character energy to it. … Read more
Until I was in my late teens, pretty much the only boys I’d encountered were my cousin and a couple of family friends. I went to two all-girls schools and had two sisters, which meant that the opposite sex wasn’t just a mystery in a romantic sense, but totally unknowable in friendship terms, too. Most … Read more
From soul ties to limerence to micro-cheating, it feels like there are more dating terms of art in use right now than ever before—and unless you’re on TikTok 24/7, it’s virtually impossible to keep abreast of all of them. Luckily for you, that’s where Vogue comes in. Below, find everything you need to know about … Read more
It can be hard to stay on top of all the trends and terms that have emerged in the dating world over the past few years, from micro-cheating to broken-heart syndrome (okay, that last one is less a trend, more a genuine medical condition). Luckily, though, there are some slightly more positive examples of dating … Read more
I’ve had a similar dream about an ex for years now: I pass them on the street, and they don’t acknowledge me. So why do I keep dreaming about my ex? After long feeling ashamed to admit this, I was relieved to learn that not only is it completely normal for someone you cared about … Read more
There’s a theory my friend and I have, that the world is divided into “sex people” and “people who like sex.” The latter enjoy sex, but it’s not a part of their personality. It’s something they do, not who they are. I would be classified as a person who likes sex. For the former, though, … Read more
It’s easy to condemn Carrie Bradshaw for sneaking around with Big behind Aidan’s back on Season 3 of Sex and the City (Carrie, girl, I get it…Aidan was boring!), but the issue of cheating in actual, non-televised relationships can be a lot harder to parse. Nobody wants to be cheated on, and most of us … Read more
